In other words, the mess.
If you go upstairs, you will find the Grown Up Living room, Dining room and kitchen, the master bedroom and bath, and babies bedroom. This area is usually (more or less) clean.
My husband likes it that way.
I like it that way!
On occasion I will discover a toy that has sneaked its way into the grown-up area. If it is light weight, bouncy, or small, I will walk to the top of the staircase, reach around the banister and drop said toy into it's designated area because I am too
This has not been a problem until recently.
I handed a toy to a two year old and told him to bring it downstairs. A second later I heard a terrible crashing as it bounced and clattered onto each step, scratching the paint on the walls on its way.
It seems that I have set the example for how to put the toy downstairs!
This scenario has repeated itself a few times since that day, so I have had to make a conscious effort to stop my toy-dropping since the toddlers have no concept of which toys are "droppable" and which ones are not!
The whole idea of being a good example is so hard! If it weren't for that pesky old sin-nature it would be easy. Instead, we constantly struggle to do what is right, to make our children tow that line, and to confess and repent when we don't do what is right ourselves."Children seldom misquote you. They more often repeat word for word what you shouldn't have said." Mae Maloo
I started thinking about this more recently because some of our children have developed a love affair with food and (ahem) it is starting to show. We have had to begin teaching them about moderation - stopping before it becomes sin. This is so hard for me because I, too, love food! Now I have to be careful! How can I say, "No seconds" while I am scooping extra portions onto my plate?
Sometimes we get it right. My tiny boy says "You're welcome" when it is appropriate to say "thank-you" since saying "thank you" elicits that response! He figured out this politeness all on his own and is following our example and saying what we say.
This week, the we have been memorizing this verse:
"Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, and in purity." 1 Timothy 4:12 NKJV
Timothy was a very young man who loved God so much that he wanted to be in full time ministry right from the start, and he apprenticed himself to the Apostle Paul.
I attempted to explain the verse to my children. I told them that sometimes people say things like: "all children are irresponsible," "all teenagers rebel," or "kids will be kids" to excuse sins typical to immaturity. It starts to become an assumption that all children/teens WILL rebel (or they are odd), will be irresponsible (or they are exceptional)... etc.
To be an example means to be "one worthy of imitation." (Webster's Dictionary) That means that we have to be BETTER at something - because you can only show someone how to do something that you already know how to do well.
I thought it noteworthy that it says "...to the believers..."
"Wow! That means that we aren't just supposed to be better than the worst people we know, like unbelievers or something, but be an example to the BEST people we know! Other Christians. We should be better than the best in our words (obviously), our conduct (our actions - the things we do), our love (as described in 1 Corinthians 13 - the self-sacrificing kind), our spirit (our ability to persevere with joy through difficult times), our faith (unwavering trust in the Holy God), and our purity.
I reminded them that to be pure means to stay as far away from sin as possible. Not to get as close as possible without actually sinning.
A man needed to hire an new limo driver, but his route included a treacherous stretch through a canyon in which the road pressed up against a cliff wall on one side, and had a sharp drop off on the other. Three people applied for the job and he took them to that stretch of road for part of their interview. "How close do you think you can drive by the edge of the cliff?" he asked. "Well," the first driver replied. "I have been a professional driver for years. I think that I could get within a foot of the cliff."
The same question was asked of the second driver. "I grew up in this area and have driven through this canyon all of my life." was his answer. "I know that I could get within six inches and keep you safe."
Finally it was time for the third interview. Again, the same question. The third driver looked over the edge and watched for a few moments as a pebble dislodged by his shoe fell to the canyon floor. He stepped back and looked at the man incredulously. "I don't know why you would want to get close to that edge!" he replied. "I would rather stay as close to the center line as possible!"
"You're hired!" the Man exclaimed.
Setting a good example may be hard...
It requires Grace. Lots and lots of Grace.
It requires that we be more intentional in every aspect of our lives.
It requires looking to the One Who set us the perfect example -
our Loving Heavenly Father!
...but it is not impossible!
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