Or even the breast feeding mom vs. bottle feeding mom match.
- Get the kids dressed and fed for school. Tell daughter No, she cannot wear her favorite shirt again today. It is dirty.
- Kids out the door. Check
- Make the beds. Check
- Wash the dishes. Check.
- Interrupted by a phone call from a friend who needs to vent frustrations. Try to listen and work at the same time. Pray for friend, get back to work.
- Tidy up the living room. Check
- Read to the children. Check.
- Load of laundry. Check.
- Stop to kiss a booboo. Distract child from pain by asking if he cracked the sidewalk when falling.
- Clean the Bathroom. Check.
- Check, check, check.
- The dishes will still be there when I get to them, take a phone call and listen patiently to a friend vent her frustrations for an hour. Pray for friend.
- Why put the toys away now? The babies are still playing with them. Put on music and dance around the living room instead.
- Read to the children.
- Put in a load of laundry.
- Stop to kiss a booboo. Encourage child to cry it all out as you stroke her hair.
- Make note to self: hire someone to clean the bathroom!
Comparison is the Enemy of Contentment.
Sometimes we like the way WE are so much that we look down on those who are not like us, judging them for not being better listeners, or for having disorderly homes. So we have little Mary/Martha wars instead of ministering grace to each other as sisters in Christ.
Or not so little wars.
Occasionally they turn into the Heavyweight Championships I was talking about.
This is where understanding that both types of women are created by God and hold equal value in His sight comes in handy.
When we accept the fact that my way is not better or worse - it is equal, it's so much less difficult to minister grace to another sister in Christ. To see her value and even to learn from her!
"But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ. For He, Himself is our peace, who has made the two one and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall of hostility...His purpose was to create in Himself one new man out of the two, thus making peace...For through Him we both have access to to the Father by one Spirit...In Him the whole building is joined together and rises to become a holy temple in the Lord. And in Him you too are being built together to become a dwelling in which God lives by his Spirit." (from Ephesians 2:13-22)
When my husband and I were in Bible college, we took a "personality test" to determine our strengths and weaknesses. I remember the teacher telling us that most people have a combination of personality types, with one usually outstanding. All of them have positives and negatives.
"Jesus Christ was the only one who had a perfect balance of all of the personalities," he said. "Of course Jesus was sinless, so he only had the positive side of each one. The rest of us are always struggling against the negatives and trying to find a balance."
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